“I’m losing it Jay. I’m going crazy. I feel like she’s already got her bags packed, and she’s got one foot out the door. I don’t know what to do. When I start to think about it, my head starts to spin, and I feel out of control and like there’s nothing I can do. I’ve screwed up too much. She’s not going to listen to anything I say. There’s no way to take back or make up for all the crap I’ve done.”

This is a version of a story that I hear at least weekly. Their world is crashing down around their knees, and they are at a loss.