I met with a man once who had just been separated from his wife. They had been married 10 years and had four beautiful children. He was devastated! This was a burley dude – beard and all, crying like my two-year-old at bedtime. He loved her, and he longed to be back with her! But he stated that it was not going to work. He had been emotionally abusive, and now, even though he may have said the word divorce first, she was the one filing papers. There was no solution in sight.